What Is The Plan For 2019?
Happy New Year everyone. Hope your new year is starting off in the direction you are planning to go in 2019. How is the new year’s resolution going?
For many people they vow to lose weight and finally get healthy this year. My gym has been very busy since new years, but the attendance will fall off soon. There will just be the regular gym crowd, with maybe a new face or two. Why do so many people fall off the wagon so to speak, in regards to dieting?
Well, first of all changes that people make are not sustainable long term. They restrict themselves to low carb, low calorie, dairy free or vow to exercise 7 days a week. They may stick to these plans for a while, and even loose weight. But, these lifestyles are not meant for real life and real people who are living real lives. I mean, c’mon, are you going to vow to never fall off your diet and indulge? Are you going to go the gym 7 days a week for the rest of your life? When faced with bread at a party are you never going to eat a piece? Are you never going to have dessert again? Can you stick to your low calorie plan when having a crazy busy day on the road ?
Second of all, people make their weight loss goals way too big, and when they fail to meet that deadline of losing so much weight by a certain date, they say ” f… it!! I’m never going to lose weight anyways, I am always a failure and can’t stick to any diet and I am always going to be fat!” I have been there countless times over my lifetime of dieting. It is so freakin frustrating I know.
Third factor in people not sticking to their new years resolution for losing weight is that they are just focusing on the food part and not fixing why they are really overweight in the first place. What is eating them on the inside that is making them stuff themselves with food on the outside? Weight loss begins in the mind, I say. You need to start with loving and forgiving yourself first, before you can ever lose weight permanently. You can lose weight and keep it off for a while, but whatever is eating you up on the inside will eventually push you back into eating as a coping mechanism to make you feel better. You may take up drinking, smoking or drug use or some other coping mechanism instead of food to help you stop the pain from whatever you are not dealing with in your life.
First of all, if you do fall off your diet, you need to remember that it is ok, you are just trying to make yourself feel better in the only way you know how to right now. You are going to be fine. Do not, I repeat do not. beat yourself up for falling off your diet. I spent years falling off my restrictive diet and eating myself silly to punish myself until I started my new diet on Monday. I gained 100lbs when I was around 16 years old from the yo yo dieting and self hatred that came from falling off my diet time and time again. I never dealt with what was eating me up on the inside. I never learned how to love myself as I was and never forgave myself for not being able to get skinny and sticking with my diet.
So, my advice is to start with learning to love yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect. Resolve any issues that are bothering you in your life. Talk to a therapist or hire a life or health coach they are so helpful and can help you look at things that are going on in your life in a different and more positive way. They are very objective and that is one thing I really think is very helpful. We can get caught up in our own heads and lose touch with what is the real truth. Also, make small goals in regards to getting healthy. Change one thing at a time and make sure that one change you can stick with for the long term. If you are a soda drinker, just drink one less sip of your soda today. Tomorrow, maybe pour a little less soda in your cup. Build upon the small successes you have every day and you will build momentum to keep making changes. In regards to food, maybe leave one last bite of your dinner tonight on your plate if you are looking to cut down on the portions. Every day eat a little less and watch the lbs melt off. Start a walking routine if you haven’t exercised in a while. Walk around the block for 10 minutes 3 days a week to start and build from there. Little changes and consistency will pay off.
I love reading books from louise L. Hay, she writes a lot about how to love yourself in her books. I have read some of her books and they really resonate with me.
Lastly, I am now a certified Health Coach and am in the process of setting up my business. I am offering free 45 minute coaching sessions, to gain some experience. Feel free to reach out if you would like to meet with me and see if I can help you in any way.
Here is to a happy, productive and healthy new year.